Oh Mama, I see you!

You’re so tired! Worrying about all the crap you did (and didn’t do) and all the crap you’ve got to do tomorrow. Skipping lunch (or eating junkfood at your desk) and living on Bustelo coffee. Your mantra is “I wanna run away.”  You dream of alone time, but pouty faces and guilt stops you from taking it. You’re so fried that you don’t stand up for yourself anymore. Face it, you’ve given up!

 HI! I’m Heiddi and I help stressed out moms like you find time to relax so you can stop trying to escape your life and savor more happy moments with your family.

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 I’m not a mind reader, I’ve been exactly where you are right now.

In 2018, my favorite food was coffee and even though I was struggling in a new role in a less than friendly environment, I didn’t ask for help. I burnt out and was later fired. For the FIRST TIME EVER! I mourned that crazy job even though I HATED IT!  “You don’t know how to do this job.” “Maybe you shouldn’t help anyone.” “You’re no good.” These negative thoughts pounded my brain for weeks after being fired and kept my self-esteem in the gutter.

The minute my teen heard the news, he was worried. I knew that if I didn’t deal with my junk, it would affect every part of my life, including my sons. And I REFUSED to let this one event affect my babies in any negative way.

I had to pick myself up, dust myself off and try again… for myself AND for THEM.

Slowly went back to doing the things I needed to be healthy. Eating, sleeping, hydrating, laughing and even having FUN with my boys again. A little bit everyday with no pressure or judgment. Just lots of compassion for myself. As little as 5 minutes for myself each and every day. I went from pulling my hair out to feeling the same joy that Monica did when she got engaged to Chandler. And started feeling better.

It felt SO GOOD to reconnect with myself. 

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To remember who I was underneath all of the stress, guilt and frustration. Being a good mother and doer was easier because I started to be good to myself. I stopped resenting my boys and stopped feeling guilty about taking time for me BECAUSE I worked on being connected to myself first.  I was relaxed and happier. And because I was happier, they were, too.

I’m a coach today because I want other stressed out moms like you to feel as joyful and happy as I do right now while still being a good mom, spouse/partner and doer.

Today, the better I care for myself, the more confident I am in my ability to protect and provide for my little family. And in a much happier and healthier way. Mama, I want this for you, too. Because the more you care for yourself, the better you’ll feel and the better YOU feel, the more you’ll be able to be that jefa you know you can be.

This is why I created the Retool Your Schedule Program so that women like YOU can be happier, more relaxed and STILL be the mom, partner and boss you WANT to be!

Where I got my start

A long, long time ago in an after-school program called the Unitas Therapeutic Community, I met the “Mr. Rogers” in my life, Doc (Dr. Edward Eismann). Two years after that amazing first day of feeling accepted, appreciated and valued, I became an after-school counselor to help other kids feel the same way. I stuck around for 10 years! As a grad student, I remembered that the happiest time of my life was in UNITAS and became a licensed mental health counselor.  The rest is people-helper history.

Why work with me one on one?

  • I’ve been a people helper for over 13 years and a licensed mental health professional since 2011 after 9 years in the corporate world (over 20 years of working my butt off!).
  • I’m a 19 year veteran working mom and native New Yorker.
  • I’ve struggled with PTSD and low self-esteem. And have used self-care to overcome them. (So I’ve done the hard work that I’d be asking you to do.)
  • I’ve coached and educated hundreds of parents, kids and teens about the importance and impact of self-care.
  • I’ve created a personalized self-care plan that fits me, my lifestyle AND my family. Been there, done that!

Wanna know some cool info about me?

I’m the Ringmaster and doer of all the things in my circus with my 19 and 6 year old boys (Yep, I like to live on the wild side!).

Mr. Rogers is my Spirit Animal and I want to be like him when I grow up.

Friends is my favorite show and I’m waiting for the boxed DVD set to drop in price because I NEED Friends in my life regularly.

As an introvert and highly sensitive person and Scorpio, I’m hard core about my quiet time.

I’m a Supergeek raising two gentleman supergeeks. Seriously I can’t call my day done without learning one NEW thing everyday. (Mental Floss, Nat Geo and documentaries.)

You were someone’s baby, too!

Here’s the thing mama,  you have the RIGHT to take time for yourself. To eat, rest and have some fun in your life. To get that routine maintenance you need to escape the pressure cooker lifestyle and savor the life you’ve created with your family.

You don’t have to come in last place anymore.

You CAN be on the list because you matter as much as your family does. You can take time for yourself and STILL be the mom and spouse you want to be.

My mission is to help YOU create, set and keep time to relax more and stress less. To be the BEST you for YOU. Without the guilt. 

And bonus – your family gets back the wonderful, amazing YOU they’ve been missing!

Because taking care of YOU means taking care of them!