BICHOK – I learned this acronym years ago from a writing website. BICHOK means “butt in chair, hands on keyboard.” It took me years to understand what it really meant. That if I wanted to get something done, I had to sit down and do it. I finally did.
I had been reading some inspirational blogs, productivity posts and others meant to inspire me to write. Because I’ve been having a difficult time just sitting down to get it done. Making time for it at home is super hard with a teen and toddler needing my attention as a single mom. I made time to read in the mornings and now changed it to writing time.
Just Do it!
So, when I have quiet time in the mornings, I looked for posts to inspire me to write. Instead, I found posts that make me think “These are the things I’d like to write.” But, I couldn’t write them if I did’t put my butt in a chair with my hands on a keyboard. Like NIKE says, I had to just do it. I had to BICHOK. And by doing so, I came up with three different posts for the blog all in less than 10 minutes. Not bad if I do say so myself.
What’s Behind this?
Sometimes when we take too long in doing something, it could mean that we fear it or really don’t want to do it. My avoidance of writing is fear. Fear that my words won’t mean anything to anyone or that if they do, I’ll have to follow them up with more words. As my friend Pauline Campos once told me, “just write for you. Do it.” And I did. It was her way of saying “BICHOK.”
Is there something that you just NEED or WANT to get done? Just do it. Do it for yourself. You deserve it. Shut up and get it done for the simple reason that you deserve to do something kind for yourself.
It may not seem like it with snow coming down in early April, but Spring is the season of sunshine and renewal. It’s a time to start fresh or start over new plans for whatever you may want to change in life. For me, it’s starting over with my blog. Again.
Renewal happens Everyday
In nature, renewal happens every season. In the past couple of years, I felt like I have been starting over a lot. every day, in fact. But, that’s how we learn and grow. Everyday is an opportunity to renew ourselves; to revisit our wants and needs. When we go through tough times or make mistakes. It happens. I think about my shortcomings and how I can learn and renew myself.
The point is every day is a new day to work on new dreams and goals. Everyday is a new chance for you to start over; to renew yourself. Your dreams; your goals.
Today, I encourage you to think about what goals and dreams you want to renew. What are you wanting to achieve for yourself? What will you renew today? I know I will.
I should say so. After a year-long hiatus preceded by a two year hiatus, you figure why do I keep doing this to myself? Haven’t I figured out what I’ve wanted to do yet?
Frankly, no. Here I am a college graduate and bilingual licensed mental health counselor working with low-income families in New York City. As of 2011, when I received my licensure, I also accomplished my goals. Which is an amazing feeling and a proud moment for me.
But, with all my accomplishments and achieved goals as of 2011, comes what next? For the past few years, I’ve been trying to find out. I’ve reduced a lot of my extra-curricular activities such as playing guitar at my local church (12 years), paid blogging (6 years) and writing in general (too many years to count).
I’ve been spending more time in self-evaluation mode while also prepping for the arrival of my second son, Benjamin who arrived on June 21, 2014. Yes, Andy’s a big brother now and I’m still the single mom of now two amazing boys. I’m a very happy mom.
While being a proud mom is great, I still have goals simmering within me waiting to be unleashed in the world. I’ve found that I need to set new goals and discover new passions.
What I hope to share on this website is positivity and wellness – whether I’m writing about mental health or the simple things that bring me joy. I’d like to keep writing and sharing these with you.
The Heiddi 2.0 Evolution is here – will you join me?
As the new school year approaches, I find myself considering what my options are for writing. I can say that I’m a good blogger, though I can be better.
Right now, my focus has been settling into the new job and making sure kiddo has a good summer. And both goals have been met. It’s been much easier for me to have goals, both short-term and long-term for my son’s education and my own career. When it comes to writing though, it’s been a challenge.
I’ve set and kept a goal of writing at least once a week on the blog. I’ve even hit a couple of conferences this year (like BlogHer12). But, I wonder what is really going to light a fire under my ass to put myself out there enough that will get me the blogging jobs I want.
So, I’m going to set this goal for myself – that the end of 2012 will find me with a redesigned website to showcase my work. That leaves me four months. Period. Onto the weekend.
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Because I’m a damn good writer who needs lots of support, that’s why. I’ve been writing for a years and have a few print and online clips under my belt. But my ultimate goal (has been for the last five years) is to break into magazines. I’ve been struggling with this goal while having achieved others along the way – grad school, becoming a licensed bilingual therapist and being a blogger in my own right. But, breaking into a nice glossy, shiny magazine is the one writing goal that hasn’t happened yet. My hope is that a year in the Freelance Writer’s Den will get me there. So what’s my problem?
My struggle isn’t having the money in my budget to join the den. It isn’t putting words together that make an impact. My struggle is simply that I need more cheerleaders and accountability partners to keep reminding me that I need to get out of my own head and get my head in the game. I can write, but I’m afraid of succeeding.
I go through this with anything new I try. I get anxious, then need support (sometimes a lot of it) then get comfortable and confident. It’s my pattern of behavior. I’m confident as a mom, therapist and blogger. I want to be just as confident as a freelance writer – seeing my name in print magazines that I can show to my dad and my son who are my two biggest cheerleaders.
So please, if you think I deserve a free year in Freelance Writer’s Den, share my post via Twitter, Facebook, Linked In (anywhere else you can think of is great, too thanks!). Then check out this contest courtesy of Carol Tice & Linda Formichelli. Thanks friends.
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Today’s flyover of the world’s most traveled space shuttle marked the end of an era. And has brought me a measure of sadness. Not for the end of the space program as I (and many others) know it, but also an end to something my son hoped for.
When Atlantis flew for the last time, kiddo and I were both very sad. I recalled all of my memories of the space program. Shuttle launches were routine for me. The flights happened regularly and I didn’t think it would come to an end. I remember the Challenger and Columbia tragedies clearly. But, even in the face of these two disasters, I felt it was important for the space program to continue.
Kiddo has said for a very long time how he wants to go to outer space. I’ve long encouraged this goal, especially as he’s shown a great aptitude for science and math. I’ve told him that he can do anything and be anyone he wanted to be – including an astronaut.
Since the last space mission in July 2011, kiddo and I have been rethinking his goals. He wanted to be an astronaut and physicist. He’s been very consistent on this idea for over a year. What I’ve suggested is that he include his love of space and become an astrophysicist. He’s slowly warming to the idea and I’ve been thinking of ways to keep encouraging his love of space.
So, while shuttle flights have ended, the closing door has allowed us to feel the breeze from the open window. I do believe that kiddo will get to space one day and I will be one very proud mom.
I don’t often write about my daytime work (counseling). This week finds me beginning the next chapter of my life – a new job. While I can’t go into the specifics of the job here, I will say that it is a major shift in work for me.
My previous job had me running around on a crazy schedule, commuting everywhere and underpaid. This new one, while still crazy, will have me on a consistent weekly schedule, in an office (omg! My very first!) and with better pay. I know that I’ll be crazy busy from start to finish, but it’ll be a welcome one after the four years I’ve had at the other job.
I know that this job will lead me closer to my professional goals, but I also hope that it’ll give me the extra motivation I need to move my writing career forward. Wish me luck!
Hiya Freshman Writers! Hope this finds you well and writing. It’s that time of year again folks. What time? Not gear up for Thanksgiving time. And it’s not Black Friday time. It’s NanoWriMo time!
If you haven’t heard of NanoWriMo – it stands for National Novel Writing Month. From November 1 – 30, you can take on the challenge of writing a novel or manuscript (50, 000 words). No editing; just writing. I myself signed up for NanoWriMo, but ended up quitting after a week and a half due to home and work obligations. Maybe next year, since I’m not up for it this year either.
Freshman Writers, this is a great way to get some fire in your bellies and write that book you have inside of you. It doesn’t matter the topic, genre or language. All that matters is that you get the project out of your brain and on to the page (or computer screen). You can do this! I believe in you. If my pals on Twitter can do it, so can you.
Go to NanoWriMo and register. Not only will you find online support groups and a buddy system, you’ll also find NanoWriMo meet-up groups that will allow you to connect with other challenge participants in your area. Check it out and good luck! Make sure to report back at the end of the month.
Hiya Freshman Writers! Hope this finds you well and writing. Today’s post is in celebration of National Love Note Day according to BrownieLocks.com. I’m a sucker for a great love note so I thought we could use this as a prompt. Share what you like about love notes and even one of your own! Below is my contribution. Enjoy!
Little boy, you’re the center of my world. You’re my motivation to get up everyday to work hard. You’ve pushed me far beyond my limits and even my dreams. You’re the best thing that’s ever happened to me and I love you. You’re my favorite kid in the whole, wide world and I live for your smile. Remember that I’ll always be there no matter what.