Evolution: Heiddi 2.0


I should say so. After a year-long hiatus preceded by a two year hiatus, you figure why do I keep doing this to myself? Haven’t I figured out what I’ve wanted to do yet?

Frankly, no. Here I am a college graduate and bilingual licensed mental health counselor working with low-income families in New York City. As of 2011, when I received my licensure, I also accomplished my goals. Which is an amazing feeling and a proud moment for me.

Turning Point

But, with all my accomplishments and achieved goals as of 2011, comes what next? For the past few years, I’ve been trying to find out. I’ve reduced a lot of my extra-curricular activities such as playing guitar at my local church (12 years), paid blogging (6 years) and writing in general (too many years to count).


I’ve been spending more time in self-evaluation mode while also prepping for the arrival of my second son, Benjamin who arrived on June 21, 2014. Yes, Andy’s a big brother now and I’m still the single mom of now two amazing boys. I’m a very happy mom.

While being a proud mom is great, I still have goals simmering within me waiting to be unleashed in the world. I’ve found that I need to set new goals and discover new passions.


What I hope to share on this website is positivity and wellness – whether I’m writing about mental health or the simple things that bring me joy. I’d like to keep writing and sharing these with you.

The Heiddi 2.0 Evolution is here – will you join me?


I wasn’t sure if the title was even a real word, but on Free Dictionary depressurization is defined as such:

tr.v. de·pres·sur·ized, de·pres·sur·iz·ing, de·pres·sur·iz·es

To reduce the pressure of air or gas within (a chamber or vehicle, for example).
The pressure is my life and the chamber is my brain. I’ve been feeling under pressure over several things going on in my life. Dysfunctional relationships (both near and far), limbo at the day job and generally overthinking things has all been affecting my writing. I’ve been talking about writing, but not doing it lately.
Other than the posts for the parenting site, I’ve not done much. Not even journaling. After a rough start to my morning (thanks to one dysfunctional relationship) I began journaling. I can’t say enough how great it is to get the junk out of my head and onto the screen. My innermost thoughts are exposed (though only to me) and I feel lighter already.
By finally writing about all the crap taking up space in my brain I feel better able to focus on where my writing (and the rest of my life) will go.
Depressurizing has really helped me today and inspired me to write a post for The Freshman Writer. Happy writing for me!

Sharing is Caring

Hiya Freshman Writers! Hope you are well and writing. I am a believer that sharing is caring and I want to share some great information with you Freshman Writers.

Today’s post is a collection of some of my favorite websites for writers at all levels. As writers, we will continue to learn and grow in order for writing to improve. You can also (if this is your thing) end up teaching other beginning writers or at least give them advice to help get them started.

In keeping with this tradition, here my list of favorite websites that I go to for tips on writing. Some are new and others are classics that I love visiting over and over again. Check them out, see what gets your attention and get to writing.

Keep learning and happy writing!

Women on writing

Writing world

Freelance Writing Gigs

WM Freelance Writing Connection

The Renegade Writer

Freelance Writing at About

Mridu Khullar

Funds For Writers


Media Bistro

Feeling Stuck

I’m feeling a bit stuck with my writing today. Maybe it’s because I’m tired. Or because I’ve been writing a lot. I don’t know what is going on, but at least I can share that here.

What I will say is that I’ve been doing a lot around writing this week. I emailed three posts for the Naptime Blog along with my invoices, I bought a few new books this week (one writing book included) and I posted a list of favorite websites over at The Freshman Writer.

Not too bad at all for a week of feeling a bit lazy and disconnected from my writing. I’m going to start journaling again because it was the only thing that helped clear my mind, get rid of the junk and get back to writing.

How do you get out of a rut? Feel free to share your thoughts with me.


Attitude is Everything

Hiya Freshman Writers! Hope this finds you well and writing. As we’re all fresh off the Oscar train from last night (if you watched it), today’s post is about attitude.

Last night, Anne Hathaway and James Franco hosted. I was looking forward to a great show. Unfortunately, there were moments were the jokes went flat leaving me saying, ‘huh?” Hathaway was funny, quirky, even weird at times, but she seemed to be having as much fun as possible.

I love James Franco in his movies, but during the Oscars, he fell flat. He didn’t seem to connect with the viewers and I could tell that he was thinking about the names of the presenters on the show. He seemed to be reminding himself of the names so he wouldn’t forget. He also seemed to be too serious to the point where the funny moments were unfunny.

What does this have to do with you Freshman Writers? The problems that Franco experienced are the same ones that writers do in presenting their work.

An editor can look at a query letter, article or blogpost and KNOW that a writer is nervous, insecure and unsure of him or herself. What gives a writer away? The tone of the piece, lack of details and even a lack of enjoyment in writing. Franco showed all of us that attitude is everything and his left me feeling that he could’ve easily stayed home and let Hathaway do the job by herself.

Before applying for a writing job or sending out that query letter, Freshman Writers, have someone look at the piece for you. If you don’t have a proofreader, let it sit before you revisit the piece. Read it as a reader, highlighting the good and the bad. Then tweak the piece to show your best self. Let the editor see your strengths and enjoyment of writing.

More than anything, your attitude reflects how you feel about yourself as a writer and your work is a key example of that. Let the best of you shine!

Happy Writing!

Snirt, snow & winter evermore

Since New Year’s Day, New York City has had only four days with alternate meter rules allowed. Why? Because of the snow, ice and, according to Kelly Ripa –  snirt (dirty snow) all around with Mother Nature showing no signs of slowing down.

Mother Nature seems to think that we New Yorkers can tolerate more snowstorms in the history of bad weather. We’ve been lucky though, two days so far (including today) has found Mother Nature hot-flashing us to a temperature of 42 degrees.

But, that will soon be over as we’ll be hit with rain and frigid temperatures again.

Thanks a lot Mother Nature. PS – you can take back all the snirt you’ve given us since December. I don’t want to climb over dirty, garbage-filled snow anymore.

PPS – Please stop blasting us with snow long enough to get the garbage collection schedule back on track. Thank you ever so much!


Writing & Self Confidence

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, Freshman Writers, self-confidence makes a difference. Writing is hard enough without us writers being down on ourselves and/or our writing.

I recently confessed to a couple of writer pals my aversion to entering contests. I don’t want to be measured against other writers and found lacking in someway. Logically, I know that every time I apply for a writing job, I am measured against other writers or at least a writing standard.

But, I find it challenging to enter a contest, because there is a first, second, and third place in it. There may or may not be a cash prize or a prize at all except knowing that one’s writing has come out on top against so many others who entered.

I’ve entered a couple of contests sporadically in my writing life. Two as a matter of fact. But, to constantly push myself to enter so much, no way.

What I do focus on is writing that I know will help others in someway. To me that is the purpose of my writing. I want to be able to help others gain insight, set/accomplish goals, or even make the decision to let the writing come out.

I also focus on my accomplishments as a writer. I’ve been writing consistently for several years now; I’m complimented on my writing style at the day job and I’ve been blogging for a few years about various issues. Reader comments and compliments are also a big help to boosting my self-confidence.

I guess I wanted to share this with you Freshman Writers so that you know you’re not alone in dealing with self-confidence issues and writing. And to let you know that sometimes a kick in the rear end from a great pal is enough to get you started again.

Happy Writing!

PS – Thanks to Gary and Abielle for your encouragement and support today. You’re amazing friends and writers!

2010 in review

Happy 2011 Freshman Writers! Hope this finds you well and writing.  Just wanted to share this overview of my 2010. And you Freshman Writers did that. Thanks so much for reading and sharing with me. Hoping 2011 is much brighter and better. Happy Writing!


The stats helper monkeys at WordPress.com mulled over how this blog did in 2010, and here’s a high level summary of its overall blog health:

Healthy blog!

The Blog-Health-o-Meter™ reads This blog is on fire!.

Crunchy numbers

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A helper monkey made this abstract painting, inspired by your stats.

A Boeing 747-400 passenger jet can hold 416 passengers. This blog was viewed about 1,400 times in 2010. That’s about 3 full 747s.


In 2010, there were 75 new posts, growing the total archive of this blog to 161 posts.

The busiest day of the year was March 24th with 44 views. The most popular post that day was Keep on Educating Yourself.

Where did they come from?

The top referring sites in 2010 were twitter.com, absolutewrite.com, bc2b65rm1lv1oxesv668zetmmg.hop.clickbank.net, therenegadewriter.com, and blog.nquentinwoolf.com.

Some visitors came searching, mostly for choosing a pen name, best pen names, great pen names, sweet pen names, and how to choose a pen name.

Attractions in 2010

These are the posts and pages that got the most views in 2010.


Keep on Educating Yourself October 2008
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Choosing a Pen Name February 2009


About Me September 2008


Pen name anyone? February 2009


About September 2008

Last Post for 2010

Well, as the new year will be here in about 15 minutes, I’ve decided to write a bit. This last several months kicked my butt – personally and professionally. And all of that butt-kicking took a toll on my writing.

I’m in the process of applying and interviewing for new day jobs while trying to write for the two steady writing gigs that I have. My goal is to maintain both writing jobs this year while sitting (for a second time) for my licensing exam which I didn’t pass a couple of weeks ago. Too much personal stuff damaging my self-confidence.

I’ve realized it wasn’t the right time to take the exam rather than my lack of knowledge. I’m over it and ready to test again in three months.

That being said, I want to share that my highlight of 2010 was going back to my blogs and realizing that I’m a great writer. I need to repeat this mantra for myself over and over again, especially when doubt creeps in.

Thanks so much for reading. May your 2011 be the best year ever! Happy New Year!

National Life Writing Month

Hiya Freshman Writers! Hope this finds you well and writing. Today’s post is about National Life Writing Month. Not only do we have turkey and Nanowrimo going on in November, we also have life writing.

What the heck is life writing anyway? From my searches online, I’ve found that life writing is about autobiographies, biographies and memoirs. Really, anything having to do with sharing personal narratives through the written word.

It’s funny that I’m writing this on the heels of the release of Mark Twain’s autobiography and my decision to put it on my wish list for Christmas. I’m intrigued to read about the life of a man who’s touched so many people with his written works.

And even funnier that I write this after beginning a poem yesterday about being the daughter of immigrants. I’d been thinking of writing about my life as a child speaking Spanish at home and English everywhere else. It’s not a memoir or autobiography, but the poem is a look at my childhood as an interpreter/tutor/bilingual child.

So Freshman Writers, today’s prompt in celebration of National Life Writing Month is to write anything based on your personal life. If you’ve started a piece already, try expanding it or start a new one. For those of you who may be reluctant, try writing in a journal. Feel free to keep it for your eyes only so that you can be as open as possible.

Happy Writing!