Yes, I AM Mom Enough!

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Yesterday’s release of the Time magazine article incited outrage and comments from moms all over. Some moms were upset because of picture itself of a mom breastfeeding a toddler (who is standing on a chair to reach his mother’s breast). Others were upset because it showed a woman breastfeeding in public. It was all over my Twitter feed. Neither of those things upset me.

What DID upset me? The title. “Are you Mom Enough?” I could care less about what other moms do – breastfeeding in public (or not), breastfeeding a toddler (or not) or attachment parenting. I know what works for me doesn’t have to work for anyone else. Or vice versa.

But, the idea that I’m NOT mom enough because I’m not breastfeeding a toddler did spark my outrage. The title of this article is yet ANOTHER way that words have hurt the community of moms. Stay-at-home, Work-at-home or Work-outside-home, breastfeeding, bottle-feeding – these are all words that have caused divisiveness in the Mom community.

Rather than helping moms unite as a force to be reckoned with, this choice of words for the cover article title only serves as a way for us to pick at one another for our parenting styles. This mom wants to breastfeed her toddler? So what? She wants the world to know about it? Fine by me. Her choices do not mean that she is “more mom” than I am. Not at all.

I’m a single mom living in New York City. Not many women would freely choose to be a single mom. I got out of a relationship and am co-parenting my son with his father. Yes, a single mom I am, but it doesn’t make me any “more mom” than the moms featured in the article. This is just my experience. It does not make me braver than anyone else. It doesn’t make me stronger than anyone else. It just makes me – me.

So yes, I AM mom enough! Next!

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6 thoughts on “Yes, I AM Mom Enough!

  1. It was all over my Twitter stream, too, and I looked at the cover–and boy! there are some images I’d really like to expunge from the old mind-trap.

    You are right in saying that there are forces (and some just money-grubbing dimwits) that act to turn moms against one another. Sadly, dividing is easy. Even though each of us wants what is “best for the children” we all have ideas (or had ideas implanted in us) about what, exactly IS “best for the children.”

    There are some people who just always have to be right, to win every argument, to force silence or acquiescence from everyone. All you can do is to turn away, consult your own mind and history, act as you see fit, and let the argument go.

    You are definitely mom enough. :)TX

    • Thanks Texanne. That’s so sweet of you. I was really bothered as I mentioned not by the picture or the age of the child, but by the title. I KNOW I’m mom enough and glad to know that I’ve got great people like you to support me. 🙂 Please visit again soon mama.

    • Thanks so much for the compliment and the visit. It was gut-wrenching for me to write. I’m really glad you enjoyed it. 🙂

  2. Great post! Love your writing :-} I don’t have kids (ok, only furry ones, anyway), but people saying, “If you don’t do things my way, you don’t care about … your kids, your country, the environment…” whatever, is everywhere these days, and very frustrating to listen to. But for it to be on the cover of a major mag, sheesh!

    • Thanks so much for visiting and for the compliment. And furry kids count too. lol As for the cover, it got the attention that they were looking for. I’m sure the writer is very well paid for their work. lol It is what it is. I just think that people should not feed into the negativity and allow it to divide them. It’s this kind of writing that keeps people separate, hence the mommy wars continue. Thanks again for commenting and please come visit again soon.

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