The Highs & Lows of Solo Parenting

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Now that Mother’s Day is upon us, I’ve been thinking about my life as a single mom. For the most part, I’m happy. I’ve got a great kid who has been a blessing in my life, my education and a great home.

A couple of weeks ago, kiddo scored second honors (90 average)Β  at school for the first time ever. I cried, I was so happy and proud of him. Hugging him tightly I told him how much I love him and how proud I was. I also thought of all of the work it took to get him to earning second honors.

I thought of the hours of work to earn money forΒ  tuition, uniforms, after-school. I also thought of the time and money spent on therapy, evaluations and finally medication to address his ADHD, which was severely hampering his ability to focus on his schoolwork. Even with very little support from family (who disagree with my parenting style/decisions), but great support from my friends, I kept going.

There have been many times I’ve wanted to quit, run away or stop the world from happening because things were so bad for me. And before my son, I did. I went from college to work to college to work and had no idea what I wanted to do in life. I had no direction and indeed not much love for myself.

And the voices of people who doubted me became my truth. Until kiddo showed up. I was a young mom, very naive and unprepared. And even though I was legally an adult, I was VERY immature. I’ll be the first to admit that. But, I learned. And learned and learned. I’m STILL learning. Every single day. I learned my own strength is very powerful. My love endless and boundless. And my son, precious.

One family member (an old-school person with old-school parenting ideas) told me that he wished I had kiddo later on in life. I was 22 when I found out I was pregnant. My reply: I’m glad I had kiddo when I did. If it wasn’t for him, I wouldn’t be the woman that I am today.

Here I am without a full time job, bills to pay and a child to raise – and yet, I KNOW I will be just fine. Kiddo’s being taken care of, I’ve got the resources to pay my bills (haven’t fallen behind) and I’m happy. No, life isn’t perfect, but being a mom, and now a single mom for two years, I’m happy.

Happy Mother’s Day to all you moms out there. And Happy Mother’s Day to me, because dammit! I deserve to give myself a huge pat on the back.

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5 thoughts on “The Highs & Lows of Solo Parenting

  1. You definitely deserve a pat on the back… And probably a lot more! I am glad you have been able to shake off negative people and keep at it because obviously it has paid off for you and your son and for all of your twitter/blog followers who are undoubtedly inspired by your story πŸ™‚

    • Hiya doll. Thanks so much for the visit and the kind words. Single motherhood isn’t easy, but I’ve made it this far! πŸ™‚ Thanks again and come back soon!

  2. Love this! Exactly right sentiment. You’re a strong, funny, intelligent woman today because you chose to be great when faced with the difficulties of single motherhood. πŸ™‚

    • Thanks so much! Happy Mother’s Day to you diva. My strength definitely comes from having someone that counts on me for everything. It got me out of my head (where I used to stay and dramatize everything) and into life. Please come back soon and thanks for the sweet words! πŸ™‚

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